Merf. Thinking is Hard.So ya wanna get Barack/ Michelle
So everybody with the Michelle’s looking for Barack / Barack looking for Michelle will do and be ok with the following:
If you wish to be Barack :
Ask out the woman you like bout three four times over a period of months-years, because she is that special.
Be respectful of her no in a way that is honorable but fully let’s her know you’ll wait
Have a passion, hobby, and or interest so important to you that you’d forgo being an IMPRESSIVE date for wanting to share something TRULY important you think you BOTH can believe in
Are completely comfortable with the idea of having a woman who has no hesitation in busting your balls( and no not in a “classy way ” always) Michelle has TAGGED her husband in public . He responds usually with a laugh. Swag on a BILLION
can you hold out and go for the woman who speaks to your spirit . Rather than a woman who will change her whole being for you?
Will you at a CRITICAL Juncture in your life when your life’s goal seems close at hand. When every piece of advice ( including your Michelle) advises you to possibly tone down your ego and aggression, do it?
Can you keep that promise for everything even as it visibly ages you EXCEPT for when it comes to your wife and kids. ( we had a presidential candidate tell the WORLD to “lay off my wife” and mean ” I will end you” can you manage to tell your friends)
Are you confident enough to say I am enough that the fact I’m not super balling doesn’t mean we can’t have a great life ?
Michelle’s :
Can you committ to being alone ? No seriously can you say whelp not gonna happen and believe that is better than settling?
Are you willing to be surprised? Are you willing to have standards that allow for good character to move you ?
Can you build for yourself a life, a career, a space, and when faced with love be willing to have the grace to change it on a hinge for the good of your family?
Can you do that and also let every one know that the things you need are NON NEGOTIABLE not for fame or fortune or luxury or preservation of your “image” ( she and he have spoken of her being two steps out the door)
Can you live with quirks. Not say you do , but seriously live with em . If your husband pretended your thousand dollar accessory was a communicator in front of cameras are you gonna laugh and be honestly ok with it or is he catching he’ll for fuckinup your photo op?
are you level confident and sure? Meaning when most of The planet is throwing themselves at your boo , are you confident enough to let it slide and badass enough to know HE got you. Not because you are so ” fly” but because what you built is so beyond the bull?
Both:
Are you willing to love a developing person and not a sure thing?
Can you leave behind your expectations but not your standards ?
Can a vision beyond your comfy life unite you
If not you probably ain’t Barack and Michelle
And That’s FINE!!!
I’m asking because I love black love. Personally I’m more prone to being Ruby looking for Ossie than Michelle for Barack( openly freakier and much more progressive) but I am reading article after article about wanting a brand. Not a person not a love but a brand
And love especially black love has more than enough hell to deal with than to be treated as some commodity to be attained like a dang car.
The First couple at an awesome example of the things you can achieve if you are passionate and committed to a PERSONAL belief system ( one I only like 1/4 agree with) but the idea that you can checklist that baffles me
