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TW: Rape, molestation (RE: recent post about united and the TSA) I just want to make this post here

thelegalizeddeafies:

…because the unfortunate viralness of my post means if I post this on my main, people will think I was trolling.

This whole thing has gotten turned into disability porn. There’s now 900 notes, 3 petitions and a friggin’ submission to boingboing even though I’ve stated 6 or 7 times now I zero desire to go viral. I was simply venting and didn’t expect this to get this many notes.

Now, how has this turned into disability porn? People (all hearing, I’m sure) are literally crying over this. They’re threatening death. They want the employees fired, humiliated, and in one bizarrely specific case, “given an intestinal parasite”.

I don’t know why, though. I’m angry, sure, but I’m not at the point where I’d wish any of those things. Honestly, I want an apology from these people and an opportunity to educate them. That’s it.

This has turned into disability porn because these people are crying over it, talking about how they want to “move to canada”, and honestly just…..wanking over it and making it more dramatic than it really was. They’re angrier than I am. They’re sadder than I am. They’re calling for vengeance while I’m not. The guy it actually happened to. What the shit, people. This is not ok.

I’ve been to Canada (hell I live 10 minutes away), and honestly, it ain’t much better. Secondly, why would you want to move there? It didn’t happen to you. You’re not deaf. I get the empathy argument, but when you put yourself in someone else’s shoes, shouldn’t you try and see why they’re NOT as angry as you? Shouldn’t you stay away from hyperbole? This isn’t empathy, then — it’s self-masturbation (as in, masturbating to onesself).

Now, why am I not as angry as the person calling for an intestinal parasite? Because this isn’t the worst that’s actually happened to me for being deaf. I’ve been raped, molested, cheated on, cheated to, had my grades changed, excluded from pretty much anything, and beaten up because I was deaf. Being called “Deafie” and being filmed and being called an “Ape” and being told to buy a TTY or get lost, while absolutely and utterly infuriating, is really but a drop in the bucket compared to some of the shit I’ve been through. Does it make me angry? Sure, I made that post didn’t I? But it’s like…..a 3 or 4 out of the 10 of some of the other stuff. It’s just a day in the life of being deaf. Does the coffee shop getting your latte wrong infuriate you? Yes, but it’s not the worst day of your life.

So really, while I appreciate the sympathy, the support and the suggestions from some of y’all, stop wanking to yourself. It’s really creepy and instead of making me feel grateful, you’re making me regret ever posting that.

Fuck it. I don’t care if people think I’m trolling. I’m putting it here.