Merf. Thinking is Hard.(via iwishthaticouldfly)
[tw: suicide]
(I was going to send this to secretsofthedisabled but ask box limits and such)
When I first saw this post, I did have some concern about “enabling” and things like that. But then I thought about it for awhile and I realized that it was not my place to decide how someone else should get better. And really, I don’t think it’s unreasonable for a person to want to know if the world cares about them or not. After my second suicide attempt, I called the one friend in my life that I could trust, and even just having that one person tell me that they cared was so, so helpful. I have some days when I feel like no one gives a shit about me, but even having a stranger smile at me while I’m getting my groceries makes things better. If one person telling me that I matter is enough to help, then it makes sense to me that someone would want a few hundred people— a small sampling of the world— to tell them that they care, even when that other person is a stranger.
It’s judgmental attitudes that assume the worst of people by focusing on “selfishness”, “drama”, “enabling”, etc., that contribute to people’s pain and suffering, and, in a way, why some people self-harm or hurt themselves in other ways. I don’t know this person and I could never understand everything they go through— therefore, it is not my right to decide for them if what they’re doing is helpful or not. I do know, however, that I have been there, and there were many times when I did things similar to this but people did not respond. During those moments, even one person saying that they cared might have changed things. That is so, so important, and it saves lives. That matters far more than our own shallow assumptions and prejudices. If there were a thousand posts like this I’d reblog them all, because people’s lives are more important than my own discomfort.
So, person that I barely know: I care. And so do other people.
(via fromonesurvivortoanother)
What Chung-yen said ^
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:If this post gets 730 notes I will never self-harm ever again.
